Anniversary post disclaimer

So J was reading my anniversary post and expressed it was a little on the negative side.  So, I just wanted to apologize for the "heavy dose of realism" I supplied ;).  My disclaimer is that I have been rather preoccupied with the marital struggles of people around me and seeing marriages and families falling apart has caused me to really contemplate why and to try and figure out what can be done to help those who are struggling.  I guess that leaked into the anniversary post a little too much, but I was simply trying to point out that even those marriages that might appear perfect have challenges and that happy and successful marriages don't happen, they are made through constant effort and attention, and by really trying to live the gospel.  We all have "rocky" and "rough" spots in our marriages,  and I think many people hit a point where they feel like their marriage is a mistake and they can't make it work.  That just happened to us early on, but in a way I'm grateful for that because, like I said, it helped us figure out earlier rather than later that we were responsible for the outcome of our marriage and that the only way to achieve our goals was through daily effort to live as our Savior and church leaders have prescribed and to make each other's happiness the focus.  Even then there are so many factors to be aware of that I just want to say we should never be embarrassed about asking for help from our ecclesiastical leaders or trained professionals who can provide tools and training to help with a struggling marriage (see this link for some helps and information: https://www.lds.org/topics/marriage?lang=eng).  I also want to testify that the atonement is real and is for struggling marriages as much as anything and that (except in cases of abuse or serious trauma) all marriages can be healed.  Here is a Mormon message that applies: http://mormonchannel.org/mormonmessages?v=1699267361001